Where are WE?

In the spirit of ‘togetherness and identity and esteem’ – which I’ve been writing about these past few weeks as gems from my “Diamonds” 💎 course…

My Sister, “Mo” has an awesome blog called Nusura, ( Survivor) – that speaks up about the ‘ silent killer’ of sexual abuse. I fully support her on her journey towards healing and all the hard work she’s put in the face this hurt. I applaud her bravery for speaking up on such a taboo subject. When she told me she would begin a blog about the hurt, I was fully excited because she she’s also a great writer. So many women of color are hurting surrounding this topic but every day they think they re alone. The lie couldn’t be more evident.

My prayer is particularly for women of color (and all women) release their hurt and stop trying to play the “Superwoman” syndrome . It’s real. A black woman working on her doctorate labeled the syndrome because it ‘silently’ kills black women every day of their lives. I’m sure it’s not particular to color, but women of color in particular need to stop lying to themselves and choose healing.

Take the time, heal, do some self care. And leave behind a legacy of healed men and women. Not secrets and shame and hurt.
Thanks Mo’ for your transparency.
Much ❤️ love , J


So, I went to a CNY Survivor’s Network meeting this morning. As usual, I was the only woman of color — with the exception of a staff member, at the meeting.  For the last several years I have found myself “alone” in those circles.  It’s almost as if this doesn’t happen to women of color — But then I speak somewhere or do a television program and I’m bombarded by women of color telling their own version of #metoo.  So, where are we??

Is it that these places aren’t viewed as a safe space for us? We spoke of ‘accessibility’ today and that was about the hard of hearing, physically disabled… Not about us at all.  Should it be?  It never seems to me that these spaces are not open to receiving women of color.

Do we have too much shit on our plates to take the time for our…

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2 responses to “Where are WE?”

  1. hushhushsweetsurvivor Avatar

    I have just read your sweet message Nthabi! You are a gem among women – always have been. I appreciate the acknowledgement that I am naked – and not ashamed. That is due entirely to people like YOU in my life that presented as if the whole, true, real me was acceptable regardless of the trials. Thank you. >

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    1. Jennrene/ Pursuing Me. Avatar

      Love you my sister. Indeed. I’ve admired the God in you since Day One.🌹


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