Sharing The Window Of Your Soul

What is your soul, actually?

Your mind is precious and should be given the utmost consideration as to “who” you allow to influence it, and “how” they influence it.  For instance, spending time with people who complain, are envious or talk down to you makes you feel vulnerable , and doubt yourself in such a way that it affects  your esteem and confidence.

Your will is the part of your soul that has everything to do with your motivations, and your heart. Unmotivated? Listen to your heart. Think about what’s near to you and dear to you. What challenges you? Where are you inspired? It’s likely you need to find something passionate to work on, or find someone that has similar passion and match that same attitude.

What moves you to  make the decisions you do? Ever thought about it? Sometimes those are “inner vows” we make to ourselves and in regard to our past and where we determine to go in our  futures.

Our emotions are simply how we feel. Paying close attention to how you feel around influential persons is key to preserving your soul. Who you allow to influence you, and share with you in such a way they respect your feelings or ignore your feelings is key to maintaining healthy relationships. How you even treat yourself, when you’re feeling down or upset helps to reveal whether you care for your emotions accurately. For instance, do you eat junk food when you’re upset, or do you go for a walk in nature and drink more water and meditate?

It’s time to consider ‘who’ you are vulnerable with, and why?

Are they closer to your heart than they should be?

How do my relationships influence my soul positively?

What are their ‘negative’ qualities – or are there hardly any at all, and do you respect them as a person, or do you just tolerate them?

I’m continuing the conversation on Vulnerability, as a part of the 12 Gems  series and course I am  writing here at Pursuing Life. My hope is as you seek the principles here on this blog you will evolve to a greater part of you.

Peace, JennRene

Changing Names…

So maybe – just maybe –  I am  in  a phase of change,   and that’s ok…

I changed my blog name.  I am no longer  “Pursuing Me”.. I am  Pursuing  Life.   I guess that  is what I  was pursuing all along,  anyway.  It  just was made  very clear to me that  was  the journey.  Aren’t we all pursuing life? Or at least  trying to live it?

Sometimes change happens between  seasons and  a  new  season is on the horizon. I  just feel  as though I am entering a season that I  will never see again.  Not  living, at least  in the way I now know it.

And that’s fine.

So… yes,  I changed the name of the blog, and I  understand it was never really about me –   that was just the season  I was  just in.  For the moment, but it won’t take away from my need to pursue myself, or life, or living, nor the  relationships  I  have; as fiercely as I have before.

I am  ready for this new place of being and doing and  seeking…


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Where are WE?

In the spirit of ‘togetherness and identity and esteem’ – which I’ve been writing about these past few weeks as gems from my “Diamonds” 💎 course…

My Sister, “Mo” has an awesome blog called Nusura, ( Survivor) – that speaks up about the ‘ silent killer’ of sexual abuse. I fully support her on her journey towards healing and all the hard work she’s put in the face this hurt. I applaud her bravery for speaking up on such a taboo subject. When she told me she would begin a blog about the hurt, I was fully excited because she she’s also a great writer. So many women of color are hurting surrounding this topic but every day they think they re alone. The lie couldn’t be more evident.

My prayer is particularly for women of color (and all women) release their hurt and stop trying to play the “Superwoman” syndrome . It’s real. A black woman working on her doctorate labeled the syndrome because it ‘silently’ kills black women every day of their lives. I’m sure it’s not particular to color, but women of color in particular need to stop lying to themselves and choose healing.

Take the time, heal, do some self care. And leave behind a legacy of healed men and women. Not secrets and shame and hurt.
Thanks Mo’ for your transparency.
Much ❤️ love , J


So, I went to a CNY Survivor’s Network meeting this morning. As usual, I was the only woman of color — with the exception of a staff member, at the meeting.  For the last several years I have found myself “alone” in those circles.  It’s almost as if this doesn’t happen to women of color — But then I speak somewhere or do a television program and I’m bombarded by women of color telling their own version of #metoo.  So, where are we??

Is it that these places aren’t viewed as a safe space for us? We spoke of ‘accessibility’ today and that was about the hard of hearing, physically disabled… Not about us at all.  Should it be?  It never seems to me that these spaces are not open to receiving women of color.

Do we have too much shit on our plates to take the time for our…

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The Woman of His Dreams…❤️

It’s Birthday Love! (No, it’s not my birthdate 🎂 ….but I sure love this post!) So I’m sharing it once again…

Sidenote: I guess my esteem posts turned into posts about self-love. 💕 Sometimes you cant see all the good inside because it takes a brave soul who loves you for yourself and what God put in you, to see your ” true” soul. How you were truly made in His (God’s) image.

Many of you don’t know the story of how Tim and I met.. and we’ll share soon… but…I never I thought I’d be ‘the woman of anyone’s dreams’ but I can literally say when I met Tim, I knew him from before. I had several dreams about being loved, by a beautiful man… and when I met him, it took me about three days to recognize he was truly that man I dreamt about! Talked about shocked! (Because I’d never seen his face in my dreams, I only knew his nature)… I guess it took a while to realize as well, I would ‘also’ be the woman of his dreams.

So yeah, God’s encouragement me to was that I find love again! I knew only after a few days that he would be the one, but I never told him that. Besides, he was living in an entirely different state, and I needed to see God work this out! So…I waited until Tim realized it.

Well anyway, when I turned 48 on October 14th, 2015 my husband was very honorable towards me. He wrote 48 things he loves about me.

I also hash-tagged #48Lessons for all the wisdom I have received in the past 48 years on Facebook, so I suppose he was inspired! (Haha!)

Anyway, .. here’s the 48 ways my husband loves me!

To : The Woman of My Dreams and the Love of my life on her 48th birthday!

Here are 48 I absolutely love about you:

1. You have a beautiful smile.

2. You have an even more beautiful spirit.

3. You are kind.

4. I can trust you with my heart.

5. I can trust you with my innermost thoughts.

6. You make your own vulnerability a strength.

7. You are strong in spirit.

8. You don’t give up when things get hard.

9. You don’t hide, when the stuff gets real!

10. You are creative.

11. You are articulate.

12. You are your own woman.

13. You are a parent of parents.

14. You are determined when need be.

15. You are wise enough to know when to be flexible.

16. You listen well!

17. You know how to compromise your position, without compromising your values.

18. You know how to have fun.

19. You work hard when it is important to do so.

20. You don’t make excuses.

21. You don’t judge or gloat even when you are right!

22. You make my world beautiful!

23. You have an eye for the aesthetic.

24. You empower and encourage instead of putting down and emotionally beating people down.

25. You give from a place of abundance without counting it as loss.

26. You slow dance with me even when there is no music.

27. You give hope when things seem hopeless.

28. You take me out of my comfort zone and empower me to grow.

29. You are my best friend.

30. You are my confidant.

31. You are my intimate lover!

32. You are my travel companion on the journey of life.

33. You are patient in the midst of my impatience.

34. You model life balance and inner health.

35. You are adventurous.

36. You are a leader among followers.

37. You are faithful.

38. You are faith filled.

39. You are my Rib.

40. You are my “Good Thang”.

41. You are my warmth when it’s cold.

42. You are my Designated Cuddler.

43. You are my prayer partner.

44. You are my prayer warrior.

45. You are my play mate.

46. You are my business partner.

47. You are the Apple of My Eye.

48. But most of all…as I sang to you when you walked down the aisle and into my life forever…”You are So Beautiful to Me!” God bless you baby for being you. Happy Birthday! And may God grant us to celebrate many, many more!’

I have committed this year in 2018 to writing about 💎 Diamonds my online course and writing about the gems therein. To make it even more exciting, I’m challenging myself to write a book on how I got to the “Other Side” of pursuing me.”stay tuned as I share more on this journey, & eventually provide links to the course.

Jennifer 🌹