Am I worthy?

How do I know?

What I base my  worth upon?

I ¬†began to ask myself these ¬†questions about ¬†my worth when ¬†I ¬† was about thirty five. ¬†I ¬†didn’t stop til I washabout 38.

I used to base it upon ¬† what my ex-husband ¬†thought was ¬†good and acceptable. ¬†Even after I left him. And then, what my girlfriends ¬†considered important, or… ¬†my parents. Even as an adult, I based ¬†my worth upon these people in my life. ¬† I would think whatever anyone important to me thought was ¬†important, it was also important to me, as well.

But I was so wrong. ¬†I matured a bit, and found that ¬†my worth is based more upon things that ¬†God ¬†finds worthy. ¬†God gave me gifts , and one of the was the ability to ¬† trust my instincts. ¬†So…lately, it’s been my ability to discern . I had a very ¬†hard time trusting myself, when ¬†I was ¬†under the age of 37. ¬†Then , one day, that all shifted. ¬†and I decided to begin to prioritize myself . I made some decisions with my purpose ¬†and intentions in mind and I began to ¬†ask myself what I wanted.

One of the ¬†most fearful decisions in my life, was to move on. To not be in relationship with someone, who I truly cared for . ¬†The only issues I had with this, was that I had to decide ¬†how to ¬†love myself more than I loved him. ¬†I realized once I ¬†loved myself¬†fully, ¬†( I came to this revelation much later and longer after I had left him), that ¬†loving ¬†me felt really good, and ¬†relationships could not dictate my worth. I would not ¬†and could not control ¬†how someone accepts me; and I actually had to grieve this relationship, even if I was not ready for it to end . ¬†The other relationship… Was similar … I didn’t expect that one to end either , but I was confident it was time to end . I wasn’t grateful for these relationships to come to an end, yet they were purposed to do so.

I was so afraid to make a mistake when I decided ¬†something, I thought if I did, my whole life would disintegrate. ¬†I didn’t trust my own thinking. ¬†And so I began to look at the source of that, to determine where I lost the ability to think for me. I realized my fear– “frozen fear” ¬†discounted my worth. That I could not make decisions for myself unless I ¬†first realized I was worthy of those ¬†decisions. ¬† ¬† And that ¬†confident place of ¬†worth had to come from deep down, so I asked ¬†God where – ¬†had I neglected myself ¬†and why? And I began even to look at my family of origin and notice patterns of ¬†family neglect and I prayed very hard for those patterns to leave my life.

My relationships were central to my worth in my past, and¬†the relationships that didn’t allow me the freedom to live and ¬†choose for myself –taught me I needed to make a few changes. ¬† ¬†Those changes ¬†taught me I needed to ¬†change a few things about my relationships in general. and I’d like to share here those lessons learned :

1. Don’t filter a bad relationship ¬†as a rejection of you as an individual. ¬†Don’t view it as a rejection. ¬† You should filter it through the guise of ¬†hearing someone else speak ¬†about the person you were in relationship, and what they saw ¬†in that person that was not healthy. Hopefully, you will be reminded of the truth and ¬†realize that ¬†you are better off believing the truth, rather than the ¬†lies.

2. Don’t force relationships to exist. If they aren’t going well , or end up ¬†abruptly and unexpectedly ending, receive it. Let it go. It may have a lesson of release in it, but you’ll never know what it was, or wasn’t , until you decide to fully release it.

3. Choices come to us ¬†every day. If we don’t let go , we stifle the growth. And sometimes growth needs to happen ¬†through the conduit of surrender. Without our resistance. ¬†And without our influence .

4. ¬†As you release… you will feel awful. Even in the grieving process … Accept. Grief comes as resolve when you are able to fully surrender. If you don’t surrender, you become stagnant ¬†and sometimes you;ll go back if you resist the release.

5. Be angry. Yell, scream release . Then yell… Scream .. & release again. Do this 20 or more times, until you feel less stifled. Even if you must have a silent scream ¬†Silent screams help too. I ¬†recently took a silent scream within, ( I just couldn’t get it out)… and then I walked in the cold air, breathed and took some of the most beautiful pics I’d ¬†ever taken before. Hmmm… (Maybe my silent scream turned into breathable breaths; because I found anther release.)

6. The worth . Oh yeah… The worth came once I moved into acceptance. Because I knew that the decisions I made were in a spirit of integrity; and ¬†I knew ¬†I was in full consideration, of ¬†everyone involved ¬†but me – i had to back track and ask myself – Do you deserve this? And most of my answers were a resounding YES. I completely let go… and ¬†I decided I didn’t want to carry their baggage around with me, any more .

Sometimes complex relationship ships can confuse you into believing that ¬†something is wrong with YOU. If the integrity factor weighs strong and you know you did what you did out of the goodness of your heart , ¬†and for the ¬†sake of being your best self. then you’re fine. If you experience oppression in your heart, feel weighted, or its way too painful , then you may need to process and heal from the experience ; with ¬†a healthy heart lending an ear and – listening to your struggle.

And one more thing… this is a wonderful time to RECEIVE. To just be around good, fun-lovin’ people, every chance you get. It balances off all the unhealthy stuff.

I’m linking up with the #GiveMEGrace Community!

saying YES.m To More.

Saying yes.

I was here today. Trying to do that things again.

You , know, say Yes.

It‚Äôs like  hard to say that, you know? To say yes when you don‚Äôt know what‚Äôs behind the door.

Saying YES.. when  all seems to be going against you‚Ķ

Saying YES‚Ķ when  I can barely breathe sometimes, You know?

Saying YES… when other things seem to be calling us to higher heights and deeper depths.

Saying YES‚Ķ to  God. Yes, not No.

Saying YES‚Ķ  to  everyone  but Him‚Ķ

Saying YES because I want to …

Saying YES because I NEED to…

But I keep taking risks, and going  there because I want to be there,  so badly.


you know that place where grace is always present.

Where ease feels like my best pajamas…

Where hope  rises.

Where peace  rests and rests some more.

In my Yes-es.

Yeah, I want to be there. To see my own reflection and just be that person each and every time, in every way imaginable.  I just want to be there. Where ‘yes’ is.

I want what’s behind the yes.

So….sometimes I see the reflection and grace of knowing yes can help or hurt me.

I see the beauty of yes … although sometimes it still seems so far away sometimes- the power of one little small word.

When I see the sun’s reflection shining through my window, I want to scream “Yes!”

I keep getting these awesome views.

And I rest in them.

The views that reach for me, too.

A few of my Yes-es…

  • Following my dreams,
  • Writing with passion.
  • Seeking God for heart and His desires.
  • Hoping I am fulfilling my purpose in Him.
  • Not getting too caught up in this life,
  • Knowing and understanding there‚Äôs another  LIFE to live‚Ķ
  • Trusting my intuition.
  • Hoping against hope.
  • Sharing and loving on those who need help.
  • Trusting God more and more..
  • Serving.
  • Looking to fulfill, not to take.
  •  Managing what He‚Äôs given me, using it wisely, and sowing it back into humanity and lives that never lived… fully.

I believe in more beautiful rays and hopes, and dreams …. deposited in me everyday.


A Rose in Bloom.

April 1, and 2nd  at the Hyatt in Tulsa Okla. will be rejuvenating and completely refreshing for your soul. Please come out to our b conference for women with a spiritual reflection as well as a soulful connection.


Roses are beautiful. We all know this. However what does one know about becoming beautiful in the process it takes to become as beautiful as a rose?

We all have a certain delicacy to be ourselves and it’s important to tune into our delicate nature and be fully aware of what it means to be a women and secure in our emotions, our beliefs , our thoughts and even our social¬†circles.

We have to prioritize those needs because they help us to feel loved, appreciated and accepted; even by ourselves. There’s an emotional balance, if you will – to being complete.

There are times when the beauty  of prioritizing ourselves in this manner comes with a cost, and usually that can be costly to our  lifestyle, our intimate nature and our connections with self and others .

One of the things I have noticed in my study of “becoming beautiful” internally and externally purposed and intentional in my personal life, is that there will sometime be thorns that sway us from developing into that delicate ¬†rose.

Roses have thorns that develop, as well. They begin looking not very dangerous, then open and sort of stay uncovered, for a very good reason. The thorns often protect the rose when it’s growing.

Yet how and why is something so beautiful and delicate often untouchable?

Thorns can be actually be a blessing, it appears  -protecting the rose   from animals eating  and devouring them. Yet if you think about it, even humans are less likely to pick them when there are thorns.

If something will cost me pain, I may try to avoid it at all costs . However maybe that’s the beauty of roses. The unavoidable pain, can perhaps cause a growth and security within, that ¬†teaches us in ways unimaginable. And when you fully take in their beauty, ¬†from simply observing, you are able to appreciate them all the more fully.

That is our hope for you .

This April ¬†2016, we are going to celebrate women and share our greatest insights, come to a greater awareness of the truth ¬†and beauty and blessing of being a woman in all her fullness. Full bloom. And in the process, you will hear ¬†and receive some of the advantages of ¬†” blooming process ¬†” that is quite natural, and we often resist.

We hope you will be present for it because it’s a conference like none other. It’s three women speaking truths about life. Spiritual and natural truths about overcoming obstacles that attempt to or prevent us from reaching our dreams. This conference speaks to the do’s and the dont’s, the hesitations and uncomfort, and of course, the unspoken.

I believe this quote by G. Deoudis sums it up:

Roses and thorns are parts of the same plant. Somehow though, some people are concerned mainly about the roses. The rose is not on the plant for more than a week, but the thorns are there forever.
Roses are teaching that the beauty of life will bloom, once you have taught yourself the lessons given by living with the thorns.”

Grigoris Deoudis

Email us for more informations out the conference, below. jennrene.owens@icloud.com